To Hug or Not To Hug that is the question!

[Annabell]

Hello Mums!
 I don't know how ye feel about the subject of whether or not you spoil a child if you "pick them up"  and Give them lots of attention.
In my humble opinion you can't hug enough!
I have 3 gorgeous children  I always respond to their cries with a reasuring cuddle,allow them to fall asleep in my arms at times and even commit the ultimate sin of allowing them to occassionally sleep in my bed! And guess what! They aren't spoiled,they are well behaved,the older 2 are confident and independent personalities,and they all have a great routine and settle very well at night.
Everyone is welcome to their own point of view of course,but my money is on the HUG,RESPOND,GIVE ATTENTION to young children point of view. ITs working for me!
CHildren are precious,They grow up so quickly,so just enjoy this time with them.When they get a bit older the hugs will be few and far between as it won't be considered COOL! to hug mum So steal all those lovely hugs now while you still can!
Bye for now and I look forward to seeing your comments.

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I agree, children need lots of hugs and reassurance.  I think we have all at one point let our little monsters lol sleep in our beds.  Although when it becomes an attention seeking thing you would have to take a different view point.  Or when your child CANT sleep in their own beds and have to sleep in your bed most nights i think it can be more damaging to their independance and confidence, thats when you might have to re-consider.   Problem is I think is with the parent sometimes not the child.  Parents can often over do the dependence bit with children, who then result in having seperation anxiety and are unable to ENJOY life without their parents.  So I guess I stand at ... Hugs all around, but not in a smothering way lol..