what am i doing wrong

[skatterbrains]

Ive tried doing some time outs but it doesnt seem to have any affect, my little girl has the most amazing tantrums you have ever seen.  Time out just doesnt do anything

[chatting in chatroom]

Time outs are generally used for naughty behaviour, not tantrums.  If you can imagine being in the most uncontrollable rage and then to have some one stick you in a corner, it will usually have the opposite effect.  When your little one has a tantrum ignore it.  I dont mean walk away and carry on what youre doing no, i mean stand where you are (or sit) do nothing, say nothing and see nothing.  If she comes up to you wanting comfort, dont push her away just dont react.  If she gets louder dont react.  If she throws toys dont react.  Only react if she is going to hurt herself, take the object away and go back to ignore.  When mummy doesnt react, the tantrum loses its power and gradually they will get less and less till she learns to speek to mummy.  Once the tantrum is over, carry on with whatever you were doing with her.  Dont let your baby become the boss of you, cos they will try it again as teenagers and win.

[Annabell]

Ive tried doing some time outs but it doesnt seem to have any affect, my little girl has the most amazing tantrums you have ever seen.  Time out just doesnt do anything

Hi Skatterbrains,
THats good advice from chatting however I saw on supernanny that if a child has a tantrum and they look for comfort that you should comfort them.They said to react to the good behaviour and ignore the bad.When the child has calmed down tell them that what they did was naughty and whatever you do don't give into them as that would reinforce the bad behaviour.Hope that it all works out for you.Bye.

[skatterbrains]

good advice, it does seem to have worked now, she is calming down alot