my 10month old wont sleep on his own

[skatterbrains]

Could anyone please help me, i have a ten month old who still has to have mummy rock him to sleep.  When he wakes up at night i have to rock him to sleep then too.  Any hits would be good.

[chatting in chatroom]

at ten months old you can try the distance comfort technique.  Basically for the first 2/3 days establish a que routine ie you do the exact same things before you rock him to sleep (change into jammies, brush teeth and a song/story).  After this is established he will understand that when mummy does these things it means sleep time.  Once he has had a few days of this then move onto the distance comfort.  do the routine and gently place him in his cot, if he crys its ok.  Then sit beside his cot close enough so that he can see your face, dont look at him dont speek to him just let him know that mommy is there and she is not going anywhere.  The first 2/3 days of doing this will be the hardest, but you must never change the routine or give in.  He is not going to harm himself or die from crying. if you give in all that teaches him is that if i scream loud enough i will get my way.  Babies hate change and you must persist.  The first night you may be there for an hour or more, the second night you should be there 3/4 of the time of the first night and the third night you should find that he will go to sleep within about 10min or so.  This will change of course, when he has an illness or teething.  But while your are implamenting this change never faulter.  Sometimes if they have a soother they wake in the middle of the night because they have lost it.  Either remove the soother altogether or substitue a snuggle blankie instead.  Remember for each new change you will probably find it will take him 2/3 days to get used to it.  Dont just jump straight into something new.  If its done properly you will find he will wake in the middle of the night, dont go into him until he is really upset, and then he will put himself back to sleep.  I hope this helps.   Obviously will smaller babies the rapid pick up put down method is better.   Once this works everytime you put him down move further away from his cot until you get to the wonderful day when you can lay him in his cot and leave the room.  You are teaching him to self sooth and independance.

[dinkydo]

Just tried this on my little one, it works.  Now i can have my life back at night *big sigh.

[skatterbrains]

defiinate improvement, but still has the odd moment where he wants to be rocked asleep.  I guess he will get used to it and grow out of wanting to be rocked.  But now he puts himself to sleep at night wuuuuuhuuuu.

[funnymummy]

ive done this with my eldist and it took 1hour and a half the first night, its soo tough to see their little faces all you want to do is pick them up and cuddles them.  Stick it out though cos you teach them a valuable lesson and you will thank yourself for doing it.

[skatterbrains]

oh my god,

It took me 3 min to put him to sleep tonight.  He wasnt even that sleepy.  YIPPPEEE.  I now have time to write on my favourite forum.  Even during the day time now, its a breeze.